“Why do you disagree with me so much?” my somewhat frustrated boss asked after I told him why I thought his idea wouldn’t work.
I said “because if I disagree when we are brainstorming then I should tell you that. If I don’t, then you have nothing but a yes-man on your hands. Wouldn’t you rather I tell you what I really think than only what you want to hear?”
“Yes, I guess I do,” he said. He chose an attitude that made him humble enough to listen to me which, according to this study and my opinion, is one…
This mutual trust deficit is sand in the gears of getting anything done in any leadership position.
So how do bosses ensure they aren’t adding to these stats?
By being a boss people can trust, of course. Building a trustworthy operational environment starts with the leader — and leadership starts with you.
The quality of leader people see is directly related to the qualities of that leader people can’t…
All hell broke loose.
Someone had left a corner of their bed untucked. The Marine Corps drill instructors saw it as an accountability failure of all 73 of us recruits and proceeded to take every mattress, every footlocker, and every steel bedframe and pile it into a mountain in the center of the barracks. It was Boot Camp and we were being taught the basics of attention to detail.
Later, as we pulled the tornado pile of beds, blankets, and steel off the pile in an attempt to reorganize, I learned a valuable lesson —details matter. …
I’ve found in life that the simplest advice is often the most powerful and that small habits you adopt paint the big picture of who you are. This observation holds true with leadership.
Admiral William McRaven, in his commencement speech to the graduates at The University of Texas, said:
“If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed. If you make your bed every morning, you will have accomplished the first task of the day. …
I remember once in the Marines I was speaking to a man named Joe Dowdy, a “full-bird” Colonel, who was about to lead over 7,000 men and women into battle. This is about as close to having God-like powers as any man can have but he was talking to me like a beloved teacher may speak to one of his favorite students.
I wasn’t his favorite Marine, of course — we all were. This extreme down-to-earth humility made him one of the most well-loved officers in the Marine Corps. A “Marine’s Marine.”
Think of the bosses, teachers, coaches, or leaders…
“Pull over, pull over now!” he demanded. My Sergeant and I were on our way back from a military exercise driving on a public highway. I pulled over. He hopped out, dragged the debris from the road, hopped back in, and we left.
As a new guy just learning leadership, I asked him why he didn’t just wait for the state DOT to handle it. He said “because leaders don’t wait for other people to do what needs to be done. As soon as I saw that debris it became my responsibility. If I can do it safely without putting…
“Hey Max, I need this back ASAP!” the email dinged annoyingly.
That simple request may sound innocent, but it was the last straw. Everything with this guy was “ASAP” and his “ASAPs” kept becoming more stringent in what they meant. His poor planning always became my emergency and he made it so I had to delay other people’s requests to accommodate him. Finally, I had enough. I know typing while angry is forever so I restrained myself and just typed back the following.
“I won’t get this done until Friday.”
He called me right away complaining that Friday wasn’t “ASAP.”…
“If Democrats would have just shut up about it, I probably wouldn’t have thought twice about getting it.”
“I just don’t trust the federal government. Why should I? They’ve only ever lied to me, confiscated a huge chunk of my paycheck, and given me nothing in return. At least the state taxes I pay cover the roads and police.”
“What ever happened to ‘my body, my choice?’ Oh, it’s not only my body we’re talking about with COVID, you say? Well, neither is abortion.”
“I already told you this!”
My old boss didn’t like that I lost track of one of his excessive new rules for conducting business.
Instead of just telling us again he had to throw in what we heard as “I told you this already! How can you not remember these things? What is wrong with your brains? Fine, I’ll repeat it again, idiots.”
Every mistake, difficulty, or issue in his eyes required a new policy to fix it. It wasn’t good enough to learn, discuss, adapt, improve, and move on. Instead, a new official rule had to be implemented and…
“Noooooo! Not another Elon Musk, morning routine, get rich, change your life, click-baity, 5 ways listicle! Come on, man!”
I see tons of writers complaining about other writers and what they write about. Many times it is understandable irritation triggered by repetitive content the same way we get tired of hearing the same talking points from our political rivals. Sometimes it’s familiarity breeding contempt.
Sometimes that morning routine hack makes us roll over and go back to sleep and we roll our eyes at the senseless beating of another dead horse.
I understand this tendency to get irritated. When you…